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To insist that this is is just how men are, and how sex is. This is what Andrew Sullivan basically proposed in his latest, startlingly unscientific column. MeToo has gone too far, he argues, by refusing to confront the biological realities of maleness.

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If you want an encapsulation of the habits of mind that made MeToo necessary, there it is. Sullivan, that would-be contrarian, is utterly representative. The real problem isn't that we — as a culture — don't sufficiently consider men's biological reality. The problem is rather that theirs Horny wemen Henniker CDP literally the only biological reality we ever bother to consider.

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The studies on this are. A casual survey of forums where people discuss "bad sex" suggests that men tend to use the term to describe a passive partner or a boring experience. Here's a very unscientific Twitter poll I did that found just.

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It's pretty damn common. In considering Sullivan's proposal, we might also, provisionally, and just as a thought experiment, accept that biology — or "nature" — coexists with history and sometimes replicates the lopsided biases of its time.

This is certainly true of medicine. Back in the 17th century, the conventional wisdom was that women were the ones with the rampant, Any woman want to trade oral sexual appetites. That things have changed doesn't mean they're necessarily better. These days, a man can walk out of his doctor's office with a prescription for Columbia city pussy based on little but a self-report, but Local sluts fort Mechanicsburg still takes a woman, on average, 9.

By that time, many find that not just sex but everyday existence has become a life-deforming challenge. That's a blunt biological reality if ever there was one. Or, since sex is the subject here, what about how our society's scientific community has treated female dyspareunia — the severe physical pain some women experience during sex caloundra sex parlours vs.

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PubMed has clinical trials studying dyspareunia. Erectile dysfunction? That's right: PubMed has almost five times as many clinical trials on male sexual pleasure as it has on female sexual pain.

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The answer isn't separable from our current discussion about how women have been routinely harassed, abused, and dismissed because men wanted to have erections in the workplace. It boggles the mind that Sullivan thinks we don't sufficiently consider men's biological reality when our entire society has agreed to organize itself around the pursuit of the straight male orgasm.

This quest has been granted total cultural centrality — with unfortunate consequences for our understanding of bodies, and pleasure, and Looking for drinks n sex.

Per Sullivan's request, I'm talking about biology. I'm speaking, specifically, about the physical sensations most women are socialized to ignore in their pursuit of sexual pleasure. Women are constantly and specifically trained out of noticing or responding to their bodily discomfort, particularly if they want to be sexually "viable. High Serbia girls aren t trash These are things deed to wrench bodies.

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It does. That means it's worth thinking very carefully about why so many people might do something that seems so completely contrary to their self-interest. Women get dressed up and go on dates in part because they have libidos and are Wife wants hot sex PA Philadelphia 19125 to get sexual pleasure.

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If it looks like that's not happening, they default to their training. And they've been taught a to tolerate discomfort and b to somehow find pleasure in the other party's pleasure if the social conditions require Seeking a Bigger Submissive. This is especially true where sex is concerned.

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