Comments Shaggedy Ann When I was in my 20s, watching Sex and the City, I saw the Samantha Jones character as a sexual role model — thinking I could have love-'em-and-leave-'em sex like. However, even when I only wanted sex, I always had a sense of loss when one-nighters didn't evolve into something.
I reflected on this while reading your recent column about how women often wake up after casual sex wanting more from a guy — even a guy Massage with Orrick ending for her don't want.
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But I personally know two women who actually prefer casual sex. They have it often and don't get attached.
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Why can they do this? So, no, Sex and the City's Samantha isn't a completely fictional character in how, after sex, she brushes men off herself like large, penis-equipped crumbs. However, in that column you mention, I referenced research from anthropologist John Marshall Townsend, who discovered that Samantha's post-sex detachment is Sex dating in Julian atypical — that many women who intend to use and lose a guy often find themselves going all clingypants the next morning.
Understanding what allows the Samantha type to escape this takes separating the women who have casual sex from those who feeling OK about it afterward. Women have casual sex for various reasons. For some, Lookin to Greenwood Village nudes or hook up seems the feminist thing to do — to prove they can do anything a man can do, whether it's working on an oil rig or dragging home strangers for a little nail-and-bail.
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Townsend notes that women hook up because they aren't ready for a relationship, because they're trying to punch up their sex skills, or — as with rock groupies — to get some small piece of a guy they know is Ladies wants sex tonight CO Colorado springs 80917 of their league.
Other women see hookups as the "free candy!
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However, once again, all the reasons a woman's more likely to have casual sex don't stop her from getting tangled up in feelings afterward.
The deciding factor seems to be where she falls on what the late British psychiatrist John Bowlby called our "attachment. If she was consistently responsive but not overprotectiveyou're probably "securely attached," meaning you have a solid emotional base and feel you can count on others to be there for you.
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And finally, being "avoidantly attached" is a response to a cold, rejecting caregiver — one who just wasn't all that interested in showing up for you. Not surprisingly, perhaps to avoid risking all-out rejection by being too Horny wemen Henniker CDP, the avoidantly attached tend to adapt by becoming people who push other people away.
It's avoidantly attached women who social psychologist Phillip Shaver and his Denver Colorado mature pussies find can have casual sex without emotional intimacy — and, in fact, tend to see their "discard after using" attitude as a point of pride. It sounds better to be a "sexual shopaholic" than a person with unresolved psychological problems. Other women — those who didn't have a really chilly caregiver — are likely to have that "sense of loss" you feel after casual sex.
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