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The section entitled The Existence of Racial Profiling has a more detailed discussion of the specific importance of good community and police relations, based on the experiences of various jurisdictions in the United States. However, racial profiling seriously erodes public confidence in these institutions. Numerous submissions described an increased personal or community mistrust of law enforcement officials, the criminal justice system, the education system, customs officials, store and mall security and society in general.
Therefore, the issue of mistrust is not just specific to one community; it permeates all sectors of society. Mistrust can be engendered by personal experiences, witnessing an incident of profiling, knowing someone who has experienced profiling or simply due to the widespread perception that profiling exists in society.
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However, the institution that was most commonly identified as having lost the faith of an individual or community were police agencies across the province.
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Scholars argue that unexpected discrimination is more stressful Cooper et al. More obviously, youths who have been taught prescriptions for coping with racist discrimination might handle these experiences more effectively Hughes et al.
In the only study to directly examine ERS and styles of coping with discrimination, Scott found that among black adolescents, preparation for bias directly increased the use of adaptive coping strategies, such as social-support seeking and problem-solving, and indirectly augmented perceived control over discrimination experiences. At least two studies have examined the protective or buffering effects of preparation for bias. More recently, Harris-Britt and Lady want sex Pocono Pines found that preparation for bias buffered the effect of discrimination on lower self-esteem.
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Hypothesis 6a: Preparation for bias reduces the effects of discrimination on depression, hostile views, and disengagement from conventional norms.
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